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This story originated from a phrase in When You Trap a Tiger by Tae Keller. A character says that some of her “leftover anger” spilled over onto someone who didn’t deserve it. I thought this phrase was very apt: sometimes emotions leftover from other encounters spill over into our interactions with innocent bystanders. The phrase also gave me the hilarious image of people boxing up their leftover emotions to store in the fridge for later.
During a discussion in a writing class, I connected that image with the idiom of “eating your feelings” and the scriptural idea of “mourning with those that mourn,” and this story was born. I have never participated in a leftovers exchange, but I have been a part of many potlucks, taste tests, cooking demos, and recipe exchanges, so this felt like something a Relief Society might do.
For non-LDS readers: a ward is a congregation in the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and the Relief Society is the church’s women’s organization. Food is a central part of most cultures and Mormons are no exception. It’s not a church activity without a spread of tasty calories, and bringing meals to each other is one of the most basic ways that we show that we care. See this fabulous book on Utah food culture for more stories and examples of LDS/Mormon foodways.
I see the lack of empathy for others as a huge problem both within the church and in the world generally. I was recently in a meeting where several Relief Society sisters expressed how they didn’t feel that they fit in and that no one understood their problems. But secretly everyone feels this way, at least part of the time. How much easier it would be if we could transfer the experience of our hearts to each other! If we understood one another that deeply, we would be more understanding of each other’s faults and foibles. Bearing one another’s burdens is in fact what Christ has called us to do; it is, I believe, the main purpose of practicing religion as part of a church, rather than as individuals.
I hope you enjoy the story and that it inspires you to find a way to share in someone else’s leftover feelings and make the world a more peaceful place.
